AND, THEY WILL ALL LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER:

Dear God,

Few of my friends (Saran, Priya, Padhu & Karthi) are getting bonded in this wonderful year. As I will not be able to make it on their occasion I would like you to approve my application and pass on the letter attached with this to these yet to be wonderful couples.

APPLICATION:

God,

I know you will excuse me for my absence in their weddings. But, I don’t know if they will excuse me for the same! So, it’s going to be your duty to look after it. I hereby leave my tension and worries about what they will be thinking of my absence.

Secondly, I want you to pass on my wishes and prayers duly to them.

Thirdly, let them get the best of the best of the best in their lives.

Last of all, I want you to tell each of them how much I love them, care for them and going to miss them.

LOVE,

Saranya Ramanujam.

LETTER:

Dear friends,

I know by this time you must all be busy with your dreams, your shopping, and your relatives and various others.

I also know that by now your wedding fevers must have bloomed in your mind. Like how is it going to be? Will it be fine? Will their family members accept me? Will they treat me with love care and affection? Of all, will we make a good couple? Will we work our marriage real well? Huh!!!! I know how it is.

Guys, just a bit of advisory words from this expert (you see m gonna successfully complete ma 3yrs of married life this july 4th). 20 Points to consider.

1. Believe in each other.
2. Never assume anything - Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups. Better talk and clarify things directly rather depositing and doing postmortems.
3. Respect for each other: Do not avoid or ignore even a bit of others' feelings. Let it be happiness or sadness or anger or crying or anything.
4. Try to keep your ears open for your BETTER HALF. If not for them then for whom? Be a good listener and then a speaker. It works.
5. Look in to their eyes: While talking look at your spouse’s eyes, know how they feel about what you say or do or act so that you can bring the situation under your control.
6. Talking doesn’t help always: Too much of talking will screw up the relationship. It’s better to be silent for a while and absorb the situation and then proceed with what you think.
7. Do not hide under your hat: Express what you feel every now and then so that your partner knows what to do.
8. Move away from disasters: In case of a serious hot argument it's better you move out of the place taking fresh air or a walk and then return back rather than winning the argument. A change in the atmosphere helps.
9. Never expect your words to be the last: A few times is accepted. May you be right or not wait for the right time to speak and express rather expect your words to be the last in a decision or discussion.
10. Involve your spouse in decision making: Whether they know about the topic or not, involving them will make them feel good and proud. If you already have an idea and want to execute it better don’t involve your spouse in the discussion. It will insult them, better to INFORM THEM.
11. Feel sorry and say you are sorry: The best way to win your partner’s heart is to say sorry even when you have not made a mistake. It will indirectly make them realize their mistake and feel for it. Goal is important (making them feel/realize) and not how you do it.
12. Never let money decide your life: Do not estimate your loved ones with the money that they have.
13. Accept their gifts: Your spouse is your greatest gift. Even though you do not like the gift got by your husband/wife accept it with a smile, say you love it rather showing your face off to him/her.
14. Forget and forgive: Mistakes are natural. They may forget to wish on our B’day or buy you a gift or scold you badly. Try to forget and forgive.
15. Learn to say IT’s OK: Situations take over human mind many times. If it happens that way with your better half and, in turn, ruins your time/day/mood, do not hit your roof. Try saying, it’s ok hunny I can understand. You will feel heavenly.
16. Let go your EGO – no need to explain.
17. Fight a lot: To know each other real well and for a healthier relationship.
18. Last: Say I LOVE YOU as many times as possible in a day. Most of all feel it and mean it rather than just saying it.
19. Go on a good peaceful honey moon.
20. Plan for kids. Preferably early and at least 2. They need to know to share and fight and forgive and support.

Guys let go of all your tensions. You all are beautiful internally. You are all my friends, and will follow my path (wink) ;-). God will be there by your side always because of my prayers. :-P

 AND YOU WILL ALL LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER.

 REMEMBER: MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.