CHINNA CHINAN AASAI

There are many heavy swirls of snowy wind blowing, it’s a snow storm. News channels said schools, colleges and offices are closed as there may be a heavy deposition of snow from 10 – 15/16 inches. People were requested to not to go to the streets.

I thought, ok fine I will not go out just like any other day. But, Man!!! I couldn’t resist from going out. It is snowing!!! How can’t I go?!? I used to go out when it was raining in India even when my mom asked me to not to. I always wanted to play with and enjoy snow. Seriously, I have this hidden craving for snow ever since I saw this song “Pudhu vellai mazhai” from movie “Roja”. Heil Manirathnam!

 The more I see snow fall through my window the more I feed my craving. It looks as if someone is pouring big buckets of snow from the terrace out of the building continuously. Whatever, I want to go.

You see, I always had this bad luck that used to follow me when it comes to snow. When I went to Manali, Rohtang Pass which is 13,054 ft above sea level where it will be (supposed to be) full of snow, was scarce with the same when I was there. Grrr!!! I felt horrible. I didn’t loose hope and was prepared to wait.

Secondly, I was here in US last time till 10th of Dec, supposed to be winter season and snowing, it wasn’t. The worst part here is, they said in news that it may snow on 12th of Dec (though I don’t know if it did). Grrrr!!!! I felt horrible. Ram said he was fed up of snows as he was in Minnesota Saint Paul (a full time snow region). Also said, I will outgrow it after some time like he did. I still didn’t loose my hope.

Thirdly, before making this trip (coming back to US) we were talking to a relative of Ram. He said there was snow storm and he was working from home that day (which was two days before we started from India). I thought Man!!! This time I am going to see snow. When I was back, there was no snow fall. Grrrr!!!! I felt horrible. Still, I didn’t loose my hope.

But today, it is snowing. I can see it right through my window. I can see the adjacent building’s roofs, trees, streets and cars completely covered with snow. Just one step outside and I will full fill my dream.  There is absolutely nothing to stop me from my snow. I was prepared to leave. I wore my winter cloths, gloves, and scarf and yes of course took my camera.

Went down the stairs (can’t wait for the lift) opened the door. I went out rite to the center of the street not worrying or thinking of anything else.  I faced the sky, with my eyes closed, mouth opened and both hands stretched out. I stood there for a couple of minutes feeling those tiny little white and cold snows on my tongue and all over my body. I smiled and said to myself: “Yes, I did it”.
Everyone has a hidden child in them which will pop-up occasionally. Today, mine did. :-)

AND, THEY WILL ALL LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER:

Dear God,

Few of my friends (Saran, Priya, Padhu & Karthi) are getting bonded in this wonderful year. As I will not be able to make it on their occasion I would like you to approve my application and pass on the letter attached with this to these yet to be wonderful couples.

APPLICATION:

God,

I know you will excuse me for my absence in their weddings. But, I don’t know if they will excuse me for the same! So, it’s going to be your duty to look after it. I hereby leave my tension and worries about what they will be thinking of my absence.

Secondly, I want you to pass on my wishes and prayers duly to them.

Thirdly, let them get the best of the best of the best in their lives.

Last of all, I want you to tell each of them how much I love them, care for them and going to miss them.

LOVE,

Saranya Ramanujam.

LETTER:

Dear friends,

I know by this time you must all be busy with your dreams, your shopping, and your relatives and various others.

I also know that by now your wedding fevers must have bloomed in your mind. Like how is it going to be? Will it be fine? Will their family members accept me? Will they treat me with love care and affection? Of all, will we make a good couple? Will we work our marriage real well? Huh!!!! I know how it is.

Guys, just a bit of advisory words from this expert (you see m gonna successfully complete ma 3yrs of married life this july 4th). 20 Points to consider.

1. Believe in each other.
2. Never assume anything - Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups. Better talk and clarify things directly rather depositing and doing postmortems.
3. Respect for each other: Do not avoid or ignore even a bit of others' feelings. Let it be happiness or sadness or anger or crying or anything.
4. Try to keep your ears open for your BETTER HALF. If not for them then for whom? Be a good listener and then a speaker. It works.
5. Look in to their eyes: While talking look at your spouse’s eyes, know how they feel about what you say or do or act so that you can bring the situation under your control.
6. Talking doesn’t help always: Too much of talking will screw up the relationship. It’s better to be silent for a while and absorb the situation and then proceed with what you think.
7. Do not hide under your hat: Express what you feel every now and then so that your partner knows what to do.
8. Move away from disasters: In case of a serious hot argument it's better you move out of the place taking fresh air or a walk and then return back rather than winning the argument. A change in the atmosphere helps.
9. Never expect your words to be the last: A few times is accepted. May you be right or not wait for the right time to speak and express rather expect your words to be the last in a decision or discussion.
10. Involve your spouse in decision making: Whether they know about the topic or not, involving them will make them feel good and proud. If you already have an idea and want to execute it better don’t involve your spouse in the discussion. It will insult them, better to INFORM THEM.
11. Feel sorry and say you are sorry: The best way to win your partner’s heart is to say sorry even when you have not made a mistake. It will indirectly make them realize their mistake and feel for it. Goal is important (making them feel/realize) and not how you do it.
12. Never let money decide your life: Do not estimate your loved ones with the money that they have.
13. Accept their gifts: Your spouse is your greatest gift. Even though you do not like the gift got by your husband/wife accept it with a smile, say you love it rather showing your face off to him/her.
14. Forget and forgive: Mistakes are natural. They may forget to wish on our B’day or buy you a gift or scold you badly. Try to forget and forgive.
15. Learn to say IT’s OK: Situations take over human mind many times. If it happens that way with your better half and, in turn, ruins your time/day/mood, do not hit your roof. Try saying, it’s ok hunny I can understand. You will feel heavenly.
16. Let go your EGO – no need to explain.
17. Fight a lot: To know each other real well and for a healthier relationship.
18. Last: Say I LOVE YOU as many times as possible in a day. Most of all feel it and mean it rather than just saying it.
19. Go on a good peaceful honey moon.
20. Plan for kids. Preferably early and at least 2. They need to know to share and fight and forgive and support.

Guys let go of all your tensions. You all are beautiful internally. You are all my friends, and will follow my path (wink) ;-). God will be there by your side always because of my prayers. :-P

 AND YOU WILL ALL LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER.

 REMEMBER: MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.

A DEDICATION TO "MY SPECIAL ONES"

It is 4:00 in the evening. Having the tv remote in one hand keep flipping channels in mute, frequently moving towards the laptop to check if there is someone online to chat, having a half read book on the other hand lying up-side down on the lap, sounds from the vent of the heater and condenser of the refrigerator to break the silence, not in a mood to sleep or eat or anything is highly melancholic.

Seriously, there are about 100 and odd people in my Fb account, over 50+ in orkut, Gtalk and Yahoo. There are at least a min of 5 people available online every time, even now. Still, I don’t feel like chatting with them all. Now I think

1. What’s the point in having these people in my friends list when I can’t chat? That too when I am desperate to talk with someone.

2. It’s social net work – we need to spread our network. How many of us really chat with everyone in our list at least once a week?

3. Am I supposed to delete these people from my list or to have them for future or further use?

4. Does this happen only to me or with everyone else? No clues.

But, but, it’s very clear that I’m waiting for the right person. That one person with whom I can spend my time simply chatting, literally forgetting everything. Wow!!!

This obviously means that there are few people who are important, special and close to my heart making me comfortable with their company. And make me miss them when they are not there.

These people are my greatest asset, my greatest gift as they share their portion of life which they will never get back. I cherish my moment with you while I’m chatting or while I’m thinking of you.

You all have made me occupied once again through this blog. You owe me, my heart and my blog.